When we are fit and supple we can cope better with life's ups and downs - both physical and emotional. We have a little more balance in ourselves. When we unconsciously understand this we start to believe in our abilities and push ourselves a little more.
When I was recovering from a hip replacement, I was determined to be able to ride again and so I was very conscientious about doing the exercises I was given by the hospital physiotherapist, but I also had the excellent help of two wonderful ladies:
Pilates instructor Sarah Ribbans ("Pilates with Sarah" in Worthing) who used Pilates herself to help recover from serious spinal injury following an accident to get back to riding and competing Elementary Dressage.
Yoga teacher Anna-Lucy from "LoveLifeYoga" in Godalming, who has a haven of calm at her home studio.
I also continue my yoga practice at home, and I highly recommend Adriene who has a 30 day yoga introduction available for free ;
When working with riders I hear these anguished comments all the time ...“....But I’ve ridden challenging horses all my life...I’ve had so many falls and it’s never affected me like this before...I used to really enjoy a good gallop across country but can’t do open spaces any more.....I just freeze when I think about jumping ....”
So WHY do we lose our confidence?
I think it helps to imagine loss of confidence as the brain’s way of keeping us stuck – or a BRAIN CAGE – a place where we do the “What if’s” to be on the look-out for trouble - a place where we don’t voluntarily want to move out of.
Now why would the brain want to do that to us ?
Simply put – to keep us from harm.
At some point we had an experience that frightened, confused us or threatened us in some way, and our Physical Emergency Response (PER) aka “Fight or Flight” response kicks in. But there are two other aspects to the PER that riders might also relate to, those of “Faint and Freeze”. I’ve ha...
As "Continual Professional Development" at the back end of last year I thought I'd learn a new process called BWRT - Brain Working Recursive Therapy (snappy little title !)
Nevertheless - a useful process to add to the toolkit, not a universal panacea, but it does have the benefit of being a quick process - usually able to address a variety of issues which keep people stuck - including fears and phobias - in a single session.
For those interested in the technicalities - BWRT actually turns out to be not so new, it utilises aspects of NLP combined with a couple of clever hypno-therapeutic double binds and pseudo-orientation.
Happy to chat further to see if I can help with any issue you may be struggling with.
Emotional Eating : how often have these feelings led to these consequences –
Angry + lonely = ice cream.
Hurt = chocolate.
Bored + cookies = guilt.
We've all let our feelings overrule our appetites and then regretted it.
Many of us have, at one time or another, eaten beyond our hunger—and I don't just mean at Christmas. Millions of people regularly turn to food during times of stress, sadness, anger or frustration. They eat in response to their emotions instead of their appetites. And once they get used to dealing with their feelings in this way, they find it almost impossible to remember what true hunger feels like.
When I first meet with a client who appears to have some issues with food, I usually ask her to draw a pie chart with each segment representing an important area of her life - such as health and fitness, family, friends, career, spirituality. Then I ask her to cross off the areas she feels are going pretty well. The segments that aren't crossed off represent the parts of her...
I actually came to hypnosis and NLP to help people recover from chronic illness
It was as a result of an “AHA” moment when a friend of mine recovered from the M.E she had been suffering with for 37 years.
I decided to study to be a Trainer of the revolutionary three day program that had aided her recovery, a program called the “Lightning Process” which utilises the science of the mind/body healing connection (psycho-neuro immunology – PNI) and combines aspects of Hypnosis & NLP and life coaching.
I set up my practice in 2008 at my home in West Grinstead, after achieving the necessary qualifications of Advanced Diploma in Hypnosis, Master NLP and life coach certification.
In 2010 order to deepen my knowledge in this fast developing area of PNI - I undertook a Dip HE in Clinical Hypnosis and 2 years later graduated BSc (hons) 1st class in Clinical Hypnosis from St. Mary's University, Twickenham.
These tips are gleaned from my own experiences and a lifetime of collecting the help and information from the professionals that I’ve been fortunate to work for and with. If you apply them you will feel much more calm less nervous and will be able to relax and have fun at competitions. This will automatically begin to increase your confidence.
1. Preparation, preparation & practice!
I know this is something you will probably have heard before, but it’s amazing how, the better prepared you are, the more relaxed you’ll feel.
When you have rehearsed and practiced until the test, or course of jumps becomes second nature, it will all begin to feel easy and familiar and you’ll feel so much happier and more confident.
You’ll be able to relax more and just enjoy the day.
2. Take a support team.
Enlisting the help of a friend who can read your test for you, or can help groom, or hold your horse when you need to rush off to the secretary’s tent or walk the c...